Saturday, 11 April 2015

Being yourself doesn't make you selfish

We all have things we want to do in life, places we want to go, people we want to be, heights we want to attain... It is left to us to achieve those goals and be those people and there is no way we can attain such heights if we don't focus on ourselves every now and then.

Recently I've been faced with many difficult choices and every time I've gone for a choice that pleases someone else, I've been  left feeling angry and frustrated. It got me thinking,  why should I change for someone else?  Sometimes because of love or some other reason , we let others change us to the point that we no longer know who we are. Living like that is toture.  Our identity,  who we are is what gives us a sense of control and the strength we need to go through life and the moment we loose that, we begin to live with a feeling of emptiness.

Only change if you want to. Only change if you feel it's healthy and if you really want to. Change if you have a deep conviction that who you are or who you are becoming is not the best of you. Don't change to please anyone for whatever reason or you will end up hating yourself.

Who you are is not so bad. Strife to grow and be the best you can be. If you need help, ask for it but NEVER APOLOGISE BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. Who u are is special and unique. Live your life in such a way that others will want to be like you.

Xoxo... Gwen A Ntumngia

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