Abusive relationships.

  Abusive relationships.

it is sad because this is quite a big issue in society today. Marriage is supose to add rather than reduce from people's lives.
   I've often wondered, people who were once so happy and inlove when they decided to get married become fatal enermies or can't even stand each other down the line in marriage. What happened? Did they ignore the signs? Where they always like that or did they change? This is quite scary.
   Look at how Christ describes the love for a husband and wife in scriptures. He says a man should love his wife as Christ loves the church. We all know how that love turned out. He gave himself for  us. That diamention of love is unfathomable.
   Some women\men make excuses for their spouses for hiting them. "Maybe it was my fault, maybe i was rude to him\her, it is because i didnt do what i was supose to do". There should be no excuse whatsoever for hitting your spouse. They are not your punching bag. If you needed a punching bag, u should have registered in a gym or taken karate classes. if you are angry, walk it off, hit the wall or break the TV but never lay you hands on your spouse.
     Sometimes the abuse is not physical. It is verbal. Calling your spouse names to the extend that they begin to doubt themselves. They become self consious and you crush their self esteem with mean words. The abuse may be phychological. Ignoring them. Going for days without talking to them. I think this is really cruel. Sometimes it might be cheating on them. Personally, i have seen relationships that have broken my heart. Husbands who treat their wives as house hold furniture or worst and vice versa. Some marriages have become like prison cells where one partner or both are just looking for a way out. Some are forced to stay together because of their kids. It is just sad. I think there are numerous factors that take relationships to this point. People start taking the little things for granted till they become big. For instance, constantly complementing one another like u did in the early days. Telling them how beautiful or handsome they are. Thanking him\her for providing for the house. Accompanying them to the grocery stores. Walking hand in hand on the street. Thanking him\her for overlooking your flaws or looking for new ways to take their breathe away. The worst thing that can happen in a relationship is when both parties no longer enjoy each other's company. Keeping anger inside instead of talking it over with your partner. These things and more are total relationship spoilers.
    We should try to make our relationships work one family at a time. Treat your wife\husband as a queen\king. Remember your kids are watching and those examples you lay out for them are the same choices they will make in thier own relationships. Teach them that marriage is an equal and loving partnership.