Insecurity is a “buzz kill” in relationships

Insecurity is a “buzz kill” in relationships

Insecurity is a feeling of uncertainty, a lack of confidence or anxiety about yourself. Put aside your insecurities and start acting like the smart, capable person you are! As a man or woman, it is important to be secure in your relationship. More than 85% of problems in relationships come from baseless insecurities.

Insecurity could be caused by low self esteem. That is very common. Some people think they are not good enough. They think people can’t love them or choose them because they are not good enough. Such low esteem could be as a result of abuse from a very young age or just societal pressures. People with low self esteem will be very insecure in relationships. They won’t believe that their friends or partners can love them or be loyal to them. When dealing with such people, you need to constantly remind them of their worth. Constantly tell them they are beautiful and they are good enough. This helps improve on their self worth. 

Insecurity leads to depression. People keep the feeling of being worthless inside and it leads to depression. Some end up committing suicide and others develop serious medical conditions. One of the greatest journeys in life is overcoming insecurity and learning to truly accept your short comings. Learn to love yourself. If you love yourself enough, then nothing society says will make you doubt your worth. Learn to be “worthy in your eyes”.

One important way of eradicating insecurity in a relationship is “trust”. Trust your partner when he says he loves you. Trust those around you when they say you are beautiful. Personally, insecurity is a total “turn off” for me. If you want to be in a relationship with me, then trust me when I say I am devoted and don’t try to find out something else. The problem with snooping around is that you will always find evidence contrary to what is real.  So dress in a way that will make you feel secure about yourself, do the things that will make you feel secure about yourself and above all, BE REAL because insecurity is a total “buzz kill”  Peace!!!

Xoxo…Gwen Ntumngia